Let Today Be The First Day... Learning to accept who is for you

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Hello all! I know! I've been away yet again, but please be sure that I was always thinking of you guys while I was busy at work. Thanksgiving is near and its time for family, friends, good food, and fellowship. I find myself reflecting a lot of times around this time of year, because people that were close to me or dear to me are either no longer with us or I have been separated from them for one reason or another. Lets just get to the meat of it. When you elevate or have life changes, people around you tend to change or they are not fit to go to that next level with you. I am learning to accept these things as blessings and count it all joy that I am no longer in the place that I used to be. I used to think that "FRIENDS" would be the ones that were the happiest for me, but sometimes you have to sit back and reevaluate that word. I heard a PJ Morton song that summed it up.

 PJ Morton

He simply said this; "Friends I tell you how you know they're real, Friends through the hard times they still are there even through the bad times, Friends will love you all the time". My God! and I can back this up by giving you the scripture Proverbs 17:17  says; ¹⁷A friend loveth at all times, and a brother is born for adversity. The bitter side of that is that you have to evaluate those "FRIENDS" who are suspect. PJ goes on to tell us; "Check the motives and I hope you know this everybody doesn't really care. Some are there to get what they get from you, but they won't do anything for you"! This is the story of my life! I'm thankful that once I begin to transition and God begin to deal with me he showed me and is still showing me who is for me. There is nothing like having a strong support system, but they have to be on the same page as you and even though they can't yet see your vision; they believe in it as much as you do and most importantly they believe in you!

You may lose people you never could have imagined losing, but this is where you learn how to love people from a distance. Don't hold any ill will in your heart towards them because they don't get it! Everyone won't get it , but that's OK. Today's lesson was Mathematics (The name and the game of life) as PJ says. So I want to encourage you and say; Continue to move no matter what and know that it's a blessing sometimes that weights are dropped off of you. The higher you go in life in turn makes the circle of "FRIENDS" you have that much smaller. So, don't concern yourself with what "they" say about your blessings and how much you have changed. Change is good for anyone as long as it is a positive and productive one. But what I would leave with you is; Just as much as you want those "true" FRIENDS, you too much show yourself to be the same. Proverbs 18:24; A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.

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Today I am sitting here reflecting and have come to the realization that in order to let today be the 1st day you 1st have to make the choice to live!

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Don't take it personal...

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Lol! You may wonder why I am up laughing at 5:55am! Well I will tell you! First of all I am laughing because I've been trying to rest and not get on this computer and it's been like that diet you try to maintain, but keep seeing the donut you love and know you shouldn't eat. I've been a busy little bee this week and apologize for my absence. It is crunch time and if you don't know I am having an event here in my city to benefit Cancer and MS (Multiple Sclerosis). The event will be held Feb. 17th-18th in Albany, Ga and the out pour of support has been overwhelming and I'm thankful that things have fallen into place.

I'm learning to except people for who they are and love them inspite of, because they too will have to grow and become just what it is God wants them to be. So, don't count people out just because they are not where you are. If it means anything to you think about the one who no one believed in and see where they are now. Makes a little sense huh? Yea, I know it's not Friday and it's almost time to wind down, so I won't bore you today. But, While you get ready for the world make sure you give yourself a check up from the neck up and turn your swag switch on and leave it there! So smile, the weekend is almost here baby!

God allows things to happen to open your eyes, make you stronger, and help you become wiser. So, take the bitter with the sweet and as the saying goes what doesn't kill you, will definitely make you stronger! Enjoy your weekend and make it a great one! For more information on the 1st Annual It's A "S.H.E." Thing (sharing hope and experiences) Benefit Weekend visit the event website at: www.wix.com/itsa_shething/benefit Enjoy your Friday Free For All Jam!! See you guys next week!

Collette Jenkins (Owner) Chozen To Conquer Cosmetics

& Guest Speaker for It's A "S.H.E." Thing Benefit

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This has got to stop...

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Hello my friends!! Your favorite authors, author has been under the weather this week, but nevertheless God is a Healer! It is 4am in my town and that tells you my day has just begun. I have missed you all so much these past few days and I have missed out on so much, but my health is very important to me. So, while I have been green (not so well) I have had to do a self evaluation again! Yes, it happens at times and yes you have to go back and re-do everything you thought you had made a conscious effort to correct about you all over again. No sweat my pet (in my Steven Q. Erkel voice) this just shows your dedication to ensure that you are headed in the right direction to be the best you; that you can be. I always use my personal experiences for tools to possibly help someone else. So here goes!

I took a conversation between myself and a very close friend of mine that was in confidence and because I knew one of the parties, thought I was looking out for them, and shared some of that conversation. Yea I know some of you may be saying; "well doesn't seem hurtful to me" or " whats the big deal"? Well, I will tell you how that small thing could have ruined the trust that my friend had in me. I not only compromised our friendship, but I talked about someone whom I don't know and hadn't given a fair chance. I thought I was being a friend and looking out for my friend by telling them about the conversation I had, but in reality I did more damage than good. Now, this is where we see who is mature and mentally grown enough to make this right wrong. If you said; "well I would just apologize to my friend who shared the info with me", that's a start but that's just apart of mending your wrong.

I had to apologize to my friend who shared the information with me, then I had to apologize to the person to whom I spoke about and even if they don't accept your apology you have to do what's RIGHT! Put all egos aside, and remember that you too have had issues in your past, have lied, have done others wrong, and have wanted to be treated fairly and justly by others. I was convicted and that's just what God does to his children when we are in the wrong, but it is up to us to go back and make those things that were made wrong; right. I prayed about it and now my conscious is clear. I made a simple note to myself and that was; " I'm learning that shutting the hell up sometimes is just a good idea".

Many things could have happened due to me not being concerned about others feelings. I could have killed someone (spiritually), I could have stunted my growth as a believer, I could have damaged someone who has already probably had enough go on in their lives as it is. The list could go on and on. So, normally Fridays are dedicated to Fun, but whats more fun than knowing you made the right decision! The song for today should give you all the motivation you need! Whatever it is, it's not too late to get it right. Be mindful of what we say, there is so much power in your words!

Myself and Sharrod Hart (I Love My Readers)!!!

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Just say thank you...

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My weekend was way more exciting than expected folks! I hope you all missed me as much as I missed you. The city was so alive and everywhere I turned I saw a smiling face and people showing love to one another. Have you ever asked yourself the question; " am I too friendly or am I too loving to others"? Well, I asked myself that very question this weekend. I'm able to separate true relationships from casual ones, yet that doesn't stop me from being positive and nice towards others. It took some time for me to get to this place and I will say this; I am happier now to say that I can. Which leads me to what I want to discuss today.

I realized this weekend that no matter what others may think of the way I show love, I do it because it's genuine and it comes from a pure place. I'm well aware that some of the people I love on may not reciprocate that same love back to me; in public smiling and behind closed doors degrading me. One thing you have to learn is at the end of the day you are responsible for your actions and you can't control how others act. So, if you're led to say thank you, I appreciate you, I love you, or you're needed; do so and not be tied to the thought of how others may view what you are doing. People like to know that you notice them and their acts and if they have helped you even the least you should let them know you care. One of the things that is not guaranteed in life is time and we take for granted that it's not promised to any of us.

So in your search to find the good in others and appreciate kind gestures or others will to help you become a better person remember what I always say; "Love isn't Love, till you've given it away". God loved us inspite of our situations so at some point we are responsible for ensuring we give that love away. Loving those you know who despise you is a true test of character and the God in you! Make the devil the liar that he already is.

Edward Wingfield (creator of Skunk Bro. Clothing) & Dyshelda Leonard (owner of Fancy Boutique)

Homecoming 2011



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It's that time again!!!

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Friday's Fun For All Jam

It's Friday!!!!!!! Wake up and get excited about your weekend. You guys know that I'm not long winded on Fridays because this is our time to wind down together and give a big woo-sah to our busy week. This week was filled with greatness and I am only anticipating what the rest of the weekend will bring. It's homecoming here in Albany, Ga for the Mighty Albany State University Rams and you can smell the victory in the air. So, to all my grinders; button that shirt, straighten your tie, put on your happy face, enjoy this jam, and know that no matter what happens today it will all be over once you punch the clock. Enjoy your weekend wherever you are, find something creative and inspiring to do. The thought for today is: Life is for the living, so if you're going to do it; do it well! Great Friday to you all! Look out for next Friday's jam it's sure to take you out of the box!

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Can't help it, If I wanted to...

 

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Wednesday it is!!! Heeey all of my midday humpers. Maybe your day has gotten off to a sluggish start but I am here with my "S" on my chest (cape included w/ wind for special effects) to the rescue! I am a little late today because it's my moms birthday and I had to be the annoying daughter that I am to her at times, but it's all in love. Sometimes we get so frustrated and irritated with the actions of others and even with things we may do ourselves at times. But, in times like this you have to remember whats important. Happiness is so much better than sorrow, a smile is better than a frown so on this fine day even though it is a mid week bustle; find the greater good in it all. I woke up this morning thinking of what would be a good motivation for my readers today and it's this simple; find someone and say something good to them, you never know who you may be helping. Sometimes it's good to think of others besides ourselves. 1 Corinthians 13 says: ¹³ And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love. Smile, it's almost over! Hope you enjoy the groove!

Jaida @ 3yrs old

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